Isn’t Etta James Stunning. As mentioned in yesterday’s blog, there has been a bit of engagement stress around our house. However, after some of your kind words and a fantastic evening with my fiance, I think I am feeling my feet firmly planted. This week in the therapy world is DEAD! Each year, I tell myself to take this week off and each year I forget and end up working these half assed days. Today was one of them. I saw two clients so on with the wedding planning. I made the first big decision/purchase of the wedding planning… The Dress. I know, I know. So soon. This decision is only second in line to the man, but like they say, When you know, you know!
So with all of this stress, elation, and mild traces of bridezilla, my fiance and I decided to have a quiet night in and talk leisurely about some of the wedding details. We lit some candles, boiled some tea, and hit Ray Lamontagne on Pandora (highly recommended!) We chatted about our elusive wedding “budget” and how we are going to save the money without putting ourself in financial jeopardy; we talked about the scenarios of merging our bank accounts; we talked about our vision and desires of a honeymoon; we reflected on how we want to include different people into our special day; we discussed possible dance songs as our playlist played on. We tossed ideas about when we will have kids. It was a wonderful evening. Romantic, sweet, healthy. This was what wedding planning is supposed to be about. It was a perfect balance of what we want the day to be and how it’s reflective of us as a married couple.
Tonight was the rebirth of my fairy tale wedding dreams. I dropped all of the societal expectations and preconceived judgments that others may have. I focused on my forever belief that it is about us committing our lives together and it being witnessed and celebrated with those that love us the most. I remember the significant details that I had dreamed about. And I feel so much better.
As we concluded our evening, At Last came ringing out over Pandora and in that moment, it was all clear.
First registry item… Turntable and Etta James.