Living a content life is not just about what to do, but also what not to do. Welcome to the Part 2 list of living a content life.
10. Don’t stop moving: If you are living a static or lethargic life, get up! We thrive off of movement. When we don’t feel that our lives are moving and progressing, we get into a rut. Stay busy. Keep your mind occupied. Move Your Body. This does not mean every second, of course. Leave time for rest, but keep your body and mind active. Always.
9. Don’t keep toxic relationships: There is nothing more devastating than an unhealthy relationship. It sucks your life out of you and takes your ability to tend to the other things in your life. These relationships are not going to get better and you know it (refer to #2 for further explanation). Seek good people. Nice, easy, balanced people. Relationships should add to your life, not subtract from it. If your relationship is taking away from who you are, then it is time (probably beyond time) to move on. Let go of past and future worries that are tangled in the relationship. If this person is not who you want them to be, today, then they probably won’t be tomorrow.
8. Don’t abuse alcohol and drugs: The physical, emotional, and social consequences of drug and alcohol abuse are profound. It slows you down, dumbs you down, and riddles you with guilt. It’s not worth it. An occasional glass of wine or cocktails with friends can be fun but leave it at that. Your time will not be enhanced with the more you imbibe.
7. Don’t stay angry: Staying angry takes so much energy. It hurts you more than the target. Unresolved anger can hinder your ability to love with an open heart. Forgive.
6. Don’t get lost in negative judgement: Don’t judge others. Any others. Don’t neglect people because of gender, race, creed, health, nationality, age, sexuality, personality, and on. Accept that your reason for judgement is your fear of not understanding and your personal insecurities. It is OK to be in this place. It is not OK to stay there. It is OK to not understand. It is not OK to hate and pass judgement. Let go of your judgements of yourself. We are our own worst enemies. Stop criticizing what you say, what you do, how you look. Stop comparing yourself to others. Try to refer your mind to the wonderful things about yourself. Acknowledge your judgements and try to let them go. And my favorite line of all time- Don’t judge your judging.
5. Don’t Smoke: I’m not really sure if this needs more of an explanation, but for those of you who are still wanting to continue this habit or enjoy it, I will elaborate. Quitting smoking is the number 1 thing you can do for your health, today! Smoking does not actually relax you. It makes all of your systems work harder. It smells. It’s unattractive. It’s killing you and when I have to smell it, it’s killing me.
4. Don’t live beyond your means: I know I am not the only one that has been guilty of this. It’s hard. But the financial stress that it creates in your life is not worth the temporary fulfillment that you get when buying. If you are still buying what you cannot afford, stop now. It’s scary, but there is great fulfillment in getting back on track.
3. Don’t be Late: Lateness causes anxiety for you and your appointment. When you are running late, you are less in the moment and are more apt to make mistakes. It will then incur negative thoughts about yourself. And it’s rude. Learn strong time management skills so that you can accomplish your tasks without feeling overwhelmed.
2. Don’t Settle: Whether this is with a partner, a job, or some other significant area in your life. Don’t settle for not achieving your dreams (but, yes, it is OK if your dreams change). Don’t settle for abuse, harassment, or discouragement. Don’t settle for stupidity, ignorance, and injustice.
1. Don’t Stop Believin: Hope, Faith, and Grace are all wonderful qualities to carry in your heart. If your life is not where you want it to be, don’t stop believing that it can’t be. Keep going. Nothing bad has ever come from believing in greatness.
Obviously there is a lot that goes into happy living. It takes regular practice and mindful living. Is there anything else that should have made the top 10? What rituals are essential for you to live a content life?