Celebration = Gratitude

101 Healthy Tools for Coping with Stress

Stress, disappointment, and negative emotions are inevitable. Sometimes coping is easy; other times it is more difficult. However, it is our job to cope. Our energy effects others, and it is our responsibility to monitor that energy.
Here are 101 ways to Cope:
  1. Bake cookies
  2. Eat two and give the rest away
  3. Go to a bookstore, read travel books, and fantasize of a faraway vacation
  4. Take a walk
  5. Call a friend that you enjoy talking to but haven’t heard from in awhile
  6. Breathe deeply
  7. Flirt with someone that deserves your attention
  8. Plan something, real or imaginary: a new career, a room in your dream home, your future children’s names
  9. Clean a room or closet in your house
  10. Volunteer your time
  11. Watch the sun rise
  12. Take a moment to smell your coffee before brewing and sipping
  13. Read something entertaining in a comfortable space: outside, a comfy chair, in bed
  14. Watch your favorite comedy
  15. Listen to upbeat music, preferably disco
  16. Write a stream of consciousness
  17. Find something that you are good at and that you enjoy doing. Become better at it.
  18. Play with pets: yours, a friend’s, or a shelter
  19. Look at old pictures, letters, or memorabilia
  20. Exercise mindfully
  21. Go on a date
  22. Shop. Buy something that you feel great in, whether it’s earrings, a stunning dress, or a great pair of yoga pants
  23. Enjoy a good glass of wine
  24. Get a makeover
  25. Play a game with friends
  26. Kiss
  27. Open the windows during a rainstorm
  28. Go to your favorite concert
  29. Surround yourself in snuggly material: your favorite sweats, a down blanket, fuzzy socks
  30. Start a blog
  31. Get a massage. Do it yourself or splurge. Massage your scalp with eucalyptus shampoo, or your feet with lavender creme
  32. Create something artistic
  33. Hit balls at a batting cage
  34. Get dressed up
  35. Drink herbal tea
  36. Try progressive muscle relaxation
  37. Run as hard as you can, even if for only for 30 seconds
  38. Take a scorchingly hot shower
  39. Meditate or pray
  40. Work in a garden
  41. Attend a community event
  42. Drink hot chocolate
  43. Watch videos of laughing babies on Youtube
  44. Take an ice bath
  45. Run as long as you can, even if at a slow jog
  46. Learn something new: a recipe, foreign language, how to knit
  47. Ask yourself how you feel; respond with advice that you would give your best friend
  48. Eat ice cream
  49. Go to a driving range
  50. Make love
  51. Go to a play or performance show
  52. Eat something decadent, slowly. Enjoy each bite.
  53. Do something unexpectedly nice for someone else
  54. Change a room in your home: Paint the walls, rearrange the furniture, refurbish a piece of furniture
  55. Scream loudly in a secluded space
  56. Take a dance class
  57. Go swimming
  58. Find something that makes you feel sexy: music, high heels, lipstick, lingerie
  59. Tell yourself that in this very moment you have everything that you need
  60. Give yourself permission to do something indulgent
  61. Forgive someone
  62. Appreciate something with age and history
  63. Explore new territory
  64. Go to an amusement park
  65. Stretch your body
  66. Sit at an outdoor cafe
  67. Do something that you never thought that you would
  68. Attend a marathon race as a spectator
  69. Hold a baby
  70. Initiate a girls’ night
  71. Sit in the warmth of the sun
  72. Join a group: AA, a book club, a rec league
  73. Consult with a health professional
  74. Read something inspirational
  75. Work on a puzzle
  76. Play like a child
  77. Go for a drive
  78. Attend a cultural event
  79. Gaze at the stars
  80. Remind yourself that you have gotten through worse before
  81. Sit next to a natural body of water: a stream, the ocean, a waterfall; listen mindfully
  82. Work towards a health goal like weight loss, a faster run time, or doing the splits
  83. Sit quietly with your eyes closed. Create a space in your mind that is peaceful and safe. Go there.
  84. Make a list of long and short term goals
  85. Take the first step towards your goals
  86. Pay off debt
  87. Find a non-profit or charity organization with a cause that you are passionate about; get involved
  88. Give your full attention to someone else
  89. Take a quiet bubble bath
  90. Make peace with your stress by finding gratitude for it
  91. Go fishing
  92. Go to a museum
  93. Visit new sites on the internet
  94. Put clean sheets on your bed
  95. Enjoy the smell of fresh cut grass
  96. Yoga
  97. Go on vacation or plan a staycation
  98. Sing your heart out
  99. Buy fresh flowers or a new plant for your home
  100. Go out to dinner
  101. Allow yourself to let go

He’s Not Perfect. You Aren’t Either

More real wellness, like this, to be shared in this month’s Wellness Challenge.


Testimonials of a Wellness Coach

I am so grateful to be able to do what I do. It has taken me several years to get to be at this place in my career and I couldn’t be more thrilled. I always knew that the essential tools and lessons that I was learning through education, experience, and introspection were missing somewhere in life lessons 101.

Here are a few amazing testimonials and feedback that I have received from individual and group wellness coaching in the last couple of weeks.

“I have lost 11 lbs in 5 weeks. This is unreal. Thank you so much.” ~L.S, 32

“I am going to bed every night before 10:30. It was hard at first but now I am sleeping and rested. I haven’t felt this way in years.” ~ J.L, 39

“I stopped my psychotropic meds. I just don’t need them now and I feel great.” ~G*

“This is why everyone needs a coach. Women need to hear that it is ok to stop beating themselves up!” ~H.T, 35

“It is hard to balance your weight loss goals with your goals to go out and meet people, but I am doing it!” ~L.S, 32

“I have started eating breakfast or having a smoothie and am seeing changes in my mood, energy level, and weight.” ~A.B, 28

“Powered through a 4 mile run. It was a challenge but I finished.” ~E.H, 26

*Not recommended without consulting a physician

The List: 30 before 30

Right around my 29th birthday, I was completely inspired when a close friend of mine created her 30 before 30 list. I loved the idea, the principle, the small goals. I felt beyond privileged that I was included in not 1, but 2 items of her list. 30 is an important year for most, but I think especially for professional women. I have thought often about what I would want to accomplish in my next year.

I could never get my list right for me. There weren’t items that were achievable, within my control, fun, inspirational, reflective of me… My list was lame. It included things like: get married, open Blissful Mind Wellness, travel more… yeah that was about it.

You see, I was always able to balance out the things I hadn’t achieved with the things that I had achieved. For instance: I thought that I would be married by 30 but I didn’t think that I would own a house by 23; I thought that I would be further along in my career but I didn’t know that the economy would tank; I miss traveling and wished I had discovered more places but I took my flight benefits for granted when I had them.

I had often reflected on my friend’s list: make an unexpected gift for a friend (which she did for me) and let someone pick a book for me to read (which I did for her). However, I could never do any of those. EVER. I have zero creative ability, and I am VERY particular about what I read. No chiclit for this mama.

As the big 3-0 approaches, I have suddenly become more sentimental about it, more nostalgic. What represents me? What do I want to do in my final Summer before 30. And suddenly the ideas have been streaming in.

My list is not the urgent rush to accomplish everything that I thought that I would do before 30 (which were my initial plans for a 30 before 30). My list is not a random checklist (which I thought I would need in order to create a 30 before 30). My list is a compilation of: 1) things that are relevant to my life now 2) things that I feel are inappropriate or less appropriate to do beyond 30, and 3) Things that I want to carry into my 30’s and beyond. So, here goes it. My list. My 30 before 30 in just over 90 days. I am gonna need your support!

  1. Learn to surf
  2. Send a hand written letter to my favorite people just to tell them so
  3. A girls night out of dancing with reckless abandon
  4. Go skinny dipping
  5. Become a certified yogi
  6. Climb a tree
  7. Paint something, like a picture, and accept it when (or if) it’s terrible (are you feeling my lack of creativity yet)
  8. Go camping
  9. Learn a healthy(ish) and amazing peanut butter cookie recipe
  10. Keep a bottle of bubbly in the house at all times, celebrate, and repeat
  11. Have a throwback girls’ slumber party (think Girl Talk— complete with zit stickers— mixed with Boones Farm but WAY cooler)
  12. Run an 8 minute mile
  13. Throw a tacky theme party– preferably a So You Think You Can Dance Finale Party
  14. Say hello to each one of my friends on Facebook (curently at 467)… and if I don’t want to, delete em
  15. Open Blissful Mind Wellness (the center)
  16. Go to a water park or theme park
  17. Make out in a car, a movie, a dressing room or someplace inappropriate (with my handsome fiance, of course)
  18. Run through the sprinklers
  19. Create prayer space, whether it be physical space in my house or designated space in time
  20. Take a shot or two at a bar with friends during the day
  21. Buy a pair of INCREDIBLE shoes
  22. Attend one of my favorite concerts. Sing during the whole thing
  23. Do the splits
  24. And a back walkover
  25. Purchase lingerie that embraces my gorgeous & natural curvature at 30
  26. Read a ridiculously long classic, like Gone with the Wind or  Atlas Shrugged
  27. Find a penpal or Twitter friend from France (my roots that I have suddenly felt most connected to)… if only I could go visit
  28. Write my fiance a love letter
  29. Drink an amazing bottle of expensive wine
  30. Get a tattoo… It’s now or never, but this is a big maybe!

The Meaning of Life

This makes me happy in so many ways…

To laugh often and love much
To win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection from children
To win the approbation from honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends
To appreciate beauty
To find the best in others
To give of one’s self
To leave the world a little bit better
To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation
To know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived
This is to have succeeded

~Ralph Waldo Emerson